Another reason to give your quid to our appeal
4:45pm Thursday 23rd February 2012 in Latest Updates
Rob Marvelly lost his battle against bile duct cancer three months ago.
Now his wife Pat, son Stuart and daughter Vicky Flood are back at St Raphael’s Hospice, where he was cared for in his final days, to promote our Give Your Quid campaign.
Pat says: “I say to friends, I hope you never have the misfortune to need the hospice but should you need it you will feel fortunate that it is there.”
About 13 months ago, Rob underwent a gall bladder operation but felt something was not right.
First he went off his food, which the family thought was due to him recovering from the op.
But after scans and further tests Rob was diagnosed with bile duct cancer, and in January 2011 doctors told the family the cancer was inoperable.
Pat remembers she and her husband had no words.
Stuart was the one to ask “What next?”
The doctors at the Marsden recommended chemotherapy but, in Rob’s case, this caused more damage than help and brought him in and out of St Helier Hospital with liver abscesses.
Vicky said during one of his many hospital stays, when her dad was refusing to eat, nurses tried to feed him but forcefully she asked them to let him sleep.
Vicky says: “The nurse duly left and Dad turned over to give me a wink. It was then he said to me, ‘Vicky, I want to go to the hospice. Can you sort it out for me?’”
While his dad was in the hospice Stuart, a chief operating officer at Credit Suisse, became inspired to raise money for the hospice by running a double marathon.
A damaged tendon meant he could not fulfil the challenge, but his employer donated £500 to St Raphael’s Hospice on his behalf.
Stuart also managed to encourage his colleagues to support the hospice and a cheque for £2,250 was sent thanks to a staff Christmas party, along with a further £930 from online donations.
In addition, Vicky raised £120 from a coffee morning.
Pat has also almost filled a St Raphael’s moneybox and plans to hold a fund- raising event later this year.
Although Rob died at the hospice, the family knows it was where he wanted to be.
Pat says: “It may be a strange thing to say, but St Raphael’s gave us some nice memories so we feel comfortable returning.
“The care, compassion, support, comfort and love they gave Rob, me and our family is something we will never forget.
WWe will support St Raphael’s in any way we can to ensure the tremendous work they do can continue to benefit and comfort future patients for years to come.”
q Can you get, your club, pub, or work or organisation get involved in helping raise money for St Raphael’s?
Why not host an auction, an Easter egg hunt or a quiz night.
There are dozens of ideas on our website wimbledon guardian.co.uk/giveyour quid and advice on fundraising.